Monday, February 16, 2004

As requested...

As requested I have posted a picture of me and the boy. Enjoy. :)

Of course after looking at this picture I have decided I need to hit the gym and lose weight. Its pretty bad when I can see I've gained weight looking at my face. My goal is to be back in shape and to be back to 160-170 by summer time. Wish me luck.

**Image was lost when blog was migrated**

Marriage, Valentine's Day and other matters

Before anyone goes having any ideas - the title of this entry relates to totally separate issues. :-P

Marriage
We have just made it through 2 days of marathon sessions of the Massachusetts Constitutional Convention. By very narrow margins we have held at bay 3 different "follow-on" amendments to the constitutional amendment. These amendments sought to change the wording of the proposed amendment to make it more palatable to voters. They have the gall to call some of the proposed amendments "compromises". I'm sorry but I don't appreciate my rights being "compromised." We now wait until March 11th when they reconvene to finish the convention and to finally decide if the amendment will be passed. Write your reps and tell them not to write discrimination into the constitution.

Valentine's Day
Valentine's day was lovely. I went out the night before with Elliot, Jen and Andrew and Tim met us a little bit later. We had a good time and the gang didn't interrogate Tim too badly. ;)

I then went over to Tim's and he gave me a beautiful silver pictureframe with a photo of us from the semi. I got him a box of Godiva chocolates... yummy.

I have to say it was nice this year. This is the first time I wasn't single on Valentine's Day and I definately enjoyed it.

Other matters
I didn't actually get to spend the evening with Tim on V-day since I had a pre-existing arragement with several friends at work to go to the Freedom To Marry Coalition's "Love is in the Air" Valentine's Day Gala dinner. There was a silent auction as well as a live auction and they made a lot of money for the cause. I was proud to be there supporting it all by purchasing a ticket to the event. I'm happy to say that when I talk to my kids sitting next to my husband I can say "I was there".

Saturday, February 07, 2004

Dancing the night away

Well, Tim took me to Clark's "2nd Annual Suitcase Semi-formal" last night. It was a great time. He had to work during it since he was on the planning board but I had him for at least most of the night. All in all I had a great time there.

We're going out tonight but its sort of a surprise. He won't tell me what we are doing or where we are going other than I'm driving and not to eat dinner. This should be fun. :)

Wednesday, February 04, 2004

Hurrah!! Hurrah!!

The answer to the question is 'No.'

That was the short answer to the Legislature's question of whether or not Civil Unions would satisfy the courts decision in the Goodridge case.

A bit of back history for those who don't know. On Nov. 18th the SJC handed down its decision concerning whether it was constituional for the state to withhold marriage benefits from same-sex couples. The court ruled that nothing in the laws said that and the state made no compelling argument that would be acceptable to provide for the disparity of only allowing opposite-sex couples to marry.

The state obstensively said marriage was to encourage families and child-rearing. That could have been a compelling argument except that no one is denied marriage if one or both parties are infertile. Also, especially in MA, same-sex couples can adopt children so they have the option to raise children of their own, thus creating families.

When the SJC ruled they stayed their decsion for 180 days to allow the legislature to do "what it deems appropriate" with regard to their decision. That very day conservatives and those against gay marriage had a field day trying to stretch it to mean that this was an opportunity for the legislature to create a lesser system of joining two people together for same-sex couples such as civil unions or domestic partnership registries.

On December 12th, Massachusetts Senate President Robert Travaglini sent to the SJC, for evaluation, a bill that guaranteed just about all state benefits for marriage without calling it marriage;calling it Civil Unions instead.

The SJC came back and said that historically anything separate has inherently unequal and that nothing short of full marriage would satisfy their decision.

They said as long as their is disparity between the institution for opposite-sex vs same-sex couples there would be an inequality.

The only caveat that the court allowed would be to withdraw the use of "Civil Marriage" for all couples and call all governmentally approved unions "Civil Unions" instead.

I see either outcome (civil marriage or union) as a victory and look forward to May 18th.

The creating of a single union for all couples is important since separate institutions, even while conveying all rights and privileges, creates two classes of people. While these classes may start out equally, rules can then be further created that grant additional privileges or penalties on one and not the other. A single institution provides that all unions must be considered when deciding privileges or penalties. Same with inter-state recognition for such unions. I can guarantee that some states would use the mutliple classes to enact laws that accept one and not the other. As it is they will still try to accept unions that satisfy particular criteria, such as being of one man and one woman, but in the end they will have to accept the entire definition of the union.

Tuesday, February 03, 2004

Happy Happy Happy

Well, the greatest thing has finally happened. I have a boyfriend!!!!!!!

If you want to know details you'll have to talk to me but I'll give a few tidbits here.

His name is Tim, he's 21, he's got spikey brown hair, blue eyes and is super cute. He's also a psych major.

I'm deleriously happy at the moment so you'll forgive me if I'm overly glowing for a while.